Navigating a Toxic Friendship?

Friendships shape us—especially during high school, college, and the early adult years. They can encourage growth and deepen our faith. But sometimes a friendship becomes unhealthy, and wisdom is needed to move forward well. How do we navigate a toxic friendship?

Scripture gives us clear guidance. We are called to “speak the truth in love” (Ephesians 4:15). That balance matters. Truth without love can be harsh, and love without truth can be dishonest.

I encourage you first to pray. James 1:5 reminds us that God gives wisdom generously to those who ask. Before any conversation, pray for clarity, humility, and grace—and pray for your friend. God is at work in hearts in ways we cannot see.

It’s also important to recognize that not all toxic friendships are the same. Sometimes a friend needs encouragement or outside help. Other times, wisdom calls for creating space. Distance is not always unloving; sometimes it’s necessary for spiritual health.

If a conversation is needed, speak clearly, kindly, and calmly. Focus on your responsibility, not their faults. You can be honest without being hurtful and firm without being unkind. Proverbs 15:1 reminds us that “a soft answer turns away wrath.”
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Above all, remember who your ultimate Friend is. Jesus loves both you and your friend more deeply than you ever could. Trust Him with the outcome, pursue friendships that honor God, and move forward with courage and grace.

Check out the podcast episode explaining these steps in more detail HERE

Stay awesome, stay on the narrow path, taking steps to thrive for God’s glory.